As part of a divorce when you have children, you have to come up with a parenting plan. Negotiating the terms of this plan with your ex isn’t always an easy feat, but it’s something that can considerably help in the future when it comes to determining what should happen with the children.
The more you and your co-parent are willing to work together, the more likely you’ll eventually have a plan that suits your needs.
Come up with the schedule
The parenting time schedule is one of the most important things you have to create. Try to get one in place quickly so the children can start to get accustomed to the new schedule.
Try to be specific in your parenting plan about how things should work, but leave room for flexibility when there may be a need. This is especially important if the kids are in extracurricular activities that may require both parents to help get them there. The willingness to use the parenting schedule as a guideline that should be mostly followed — instead of something that must be 100% obeyed at all times — can help your children thrive.
Remember that you and your ex are a team
It isn’t always easy to co-parent with an ex but if you remember that you’re on the same parenting team, it might be easier. Being able to work with your ex also enables you to ensure that the children have the support they need. This can also help your children to feel more stable. The kids might be less likely to worry about if they’ll get to spend time with both parents if they see both adults working together.
Ultimately, you have to put your children’s needs first. Keeping this at the heart of the process when you’re coming up with the terms of the parenting plan can help you to make decisions that are in your children’s best interests. Your attorney can help you to come up with options and learn about how they might impact the situation in the future.