Going through a divorce is going to cause some amount of strain, no matter what you do to try to prevent it. There’s no question that it can be difficult for children to adjust to a different standard of living or having to move between homes.
If you and your spouse have always been well-off, splitting up your incomes may seem like a major change in your finances. Of course, this is to be expected, but for a child, that change can be hard. That’s why it’s important to realize that your child may have some difficulty adjusting and to take time to address those psychological and mental health issues that may arise.
Stress comes out differently in children
Remember that stress can present in a number of different ways when children are trying to cope. Some may withdraw or seem unlike themselves. Others may become angry or lash out. Some may not appear to change at all, but they may secretly be struggling with the changes that they’re dealing with.
As parents, the best thing you can do for your children is to sit down and talk to them about the changes that are to come. Explain if money might be tighter or if they’ll live in a smaller home. Ask them how they feel about that, and check in regularly to make sure they’re adjusting.
If your child is not coping well or problems continue to arise, consider children’s or family therapy, so that you can get the support that is needed to get them through this difficult time. All children are different, so you will know what’s best for yours.